As a foodie and cooking show host, I see food as an expression of love and a way to connect. That wasn’t always the case. When there’s $40 left in your account, a gas tank running on empty and another 5 days until payday, food becomes a source of stress. I’ve been there. I know the feeling.

I know what it’s like to eat ketchup and mustard sandwiches for lunch and only roasted potatoes for dinner. I’m the person who stretched every dollar at the grocery store so that I could make ends meet on my own.

But here’s the thing - if I would have asked for help I would have gotten it. The entire time I was stressed about food and budgeting I had a lifeline I never used. I’m fortunate to have options, but not everyone does.

That’s why I’m hosting a Birthday Bingo Bash on June 27, 2024. The goal is to raise $25,000 to support the work of Food Lifeline and to be a lifeline to people navigating food insecurity in our community. Please join me in making it possible for everyone to put food on the...

If drama is your favorite genre of movies or shows, sports could also be right up your alley this week. Every game provides its own kind of drama, but this week features the start of the NBA Finals and Stanley Cup Finals both of which are filled with storylines and drama. And in my opinion a little sports drama makes for great small talk.

With that in mind here are a few talking points you can use in small talk this week.

Circling back around. Checking in. Just following up.

Oft-used phrases when sending a follow up email. They’re accurate, but also boring. Few people I know get excited to read an email about circling back around.

To be clear, follow up emails need to take place. It’s part of the relationship building process, but there are usually ways to make it more interesting and engaging – like using sports.

“Checking in” might not grab my attention, “Checking in after a big win by the Rangers last night” does.

Sports provides easy and obvious follow up opportunities that are far more interesting than the usual business fallbacks. Give it a try this week using one of these sports topics.

“If you’re excited, they’ll be excited”

Those were the last minute instructions I overheard being given to the swarm of volunteers working a fundraising event Saturday night. The volunteers were tasked with selling raffle tickets and there was some trepidation over striking up conversations with strangers. The volunteer coordinator assured them it would be easier and the conversation would be smoother if they showed enthusiasm because, “if you’re excited, they’ll be excited.”

That’s a reminder that works for small talk - and really any conversation – too. If we’re listless and half-hearted in our efforts to strike up a conversation we shouldn’t be surprised when we’re met with that same energy. Instead, make it a point to be enthusiastic and watch how that interaction changes.

If you need some inspiration or a few sports topics to get the rolling, these will work this week.

I could teach a Masterclass in waiting. Not being patient, just waiting.

It’s a large part of my job, and that can be frustrating for someone who likes to be on-the-go, not to mention efficient in attacking a to-do list.

After more than two decades in sports broadcasting and countless hours spent waiting for people to be ready to talk to me, I’ve accepted it’s part of my job. I’ve also come to these two realizations.

Waiting is work. You are doing something. In “real life” we thinking waiting is a waste of time, but for me it’s a large part of success. It’s far better for me to wait until a player is ready to talk to me than to force my agenda and timeline on them. That never leads to the type of interaction I’m looking for and doesn’t do much to further the relationship.

Smiling counts. I won’t try to tell you to be patient while waiting. I’m usually not. I’ve actually found it’s not about being patient as much as finding different ways to measure success. That’s why I smile and s...

Synonyms for “talk” include: confab, divulge, articulate, confer and confide.

Don’t ask me why I started going down this rabbit hole, but here’s what it got me thinking – those words are so much more interesting and descriptive than “talk.” It’s amazing how swapping one word for another can change the entire feel of the interaction.

So, what if we did that for the phrase small talk?

What if, instead of thinking it as chit chat, we think about it as a connection point?

What if we characterize it as a deliberate interaction?

I suspect that when we do that, we also become more intentional about the message we’re sending and the relationships we’re building. These sports topics can help with all of that this week.

I don't know about you, but my weekend included a parade. One that I was in! (Thank you to the Apple Blossom festival for asking me to be part of their big weekend of festivities.)

I was prepared for the smiling and waving - elbow, elbow, wrist, wrist. But I was little surprised by the amount of conversation that takes place on the parade route. The was a lot of small talk with folks as the car slowly made it's way down the two-mile parade route. Most of the small talk was about the Mariners or the fact that it was raining during the parade. Easy enough conversation starters since most people know me from Mariners TV broadcasts and the rain was a huge talking point for everyone. 

Sometimes small talk isn't that easy or obvious, which is when these sports topics could come in handy. 

I see sports connections and conversations everywhere – including the kitchen.

This week I’m launching a new season of I Cook, You Measure. If you haven’t heard about the show or watched an episode here’s what you should know – it’s part cooking instruction, part entertainment and all about connecting over food and wine. I cook with athletes and we talk sports, but mostly we’re just human beings eating and laughing together. It’s a show that could be a conversation starter for you, your family and your friends. You can find every episode of the show online and look for a new one dropping Thursday. Make sure to like and subscribe.

Here are a few other sports topics you can use this week.

We're back with more episodes of I Cook, You Measure presented by Safeway starting this week!

If you're new to the show here's what you can expect - a lot of laughs and stories with a side of sports talk thrown in while mixing it up in the kitchen. 

Season 4 was shot on location during Spring Training in Arizona which means there's a definite baseball vibe to these six episodes. 

You'll find new episodes (and every episode of the show) on YouTube. Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the show or the Bonus Bites for each episode. 

Want the ingredients list, wine pairings or fun facts about each episode? This is where you'll find 'em. 

Finally, if you decide to cook along with us and make any of the recipes featured in the show, send me a picture and share your results!

You know that realization that you should have followed up and meant to send a note weeks, maybe even months, ago? We’ve all been there and then been in a position of trying to figure out what to say to get back on the radar without things being too awkward.

Here are my suggestions:

1. State the obvious. There’s no need to lie or to make up an excuse. Be honest in saying that it’s taken longer than you intended to follow up.
2. Use sports. Hockey and basketball playoffs are underway. That means we’re nearing the end of those seasons giving you a timeline to reference and create natural follow up opportunities. It might sound something like this: 

"It hit me while watching the NHL playoffs that we haven’t connected since the Winter Classic back in January. It’s taken me far longer than I intended to reach out. I’d love to get coffee on the books before we get to the Finals.”

Here are a few other sports topics you can use to spark a conversation this week.